Drop What??

We all need to wear pants, unless your name is Kimmy Kardashian BUT even Kim like a pant at times.

Now don’t get me wrong I still love a good jean but this winter I have been wearing the shit out of a good drop crotch pant.

You either love or hate the drop. I bloody love them. My mother bloody hates them and continues to comment on the fact. Bearing in mind I have just had my 31st birthday it’s pretty obvious your mother always has an opinion on EVERYTHING!!

Easy to wear. Dress up or dress down. Day to Night. They really are easy to wear AND frigging comfortable.

Stripes, denim and monochrome all feature in this mamas wardrobe.

Here are my favs.

STRIPES

Madame Midi Stripe $109 from Madame Goblin. These are up there with my favourite ever purchases. I love them almost as much as my children. Sometimes more. They also do small sizes for matchy matching.

ELM Lennox $89.95 from Shineon. More a relaxed fix these are perfect for a relaxing Sunday.

DENIM

Luxe Fleur Drop Crotch Jeans AU$99.99 from Decjuba. An extreme drop in the crotch area. Not for the faint hearted. Definitely size down.

MONOCHROME

mumMe Duffle Pant $69.95 from Bam + Boo. No seams and no fading from these bad boys. Bam + Boo are also bringing out also new style with pockets!!

FATE Halston Pant $139.90 from Shineon. Slightly shorter in the leg these pants also the most beautiful fabric. Lil bit shiny and silky. Perfect for the evening with heels.

Luxe Drop Crotch Pant AU$59.95 from Decjuba. You can’t go past a staple. I think I need the grey!!

Happy shopping!!

Jx

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Winners and Losers

In life and adulthood there are winners and losers. Now I’m not talking about winning a race or a game of monopoly. Life is full of outcomes good and bad.

That job you really want. Sometimes you are successful and sometimes you are not. The hot guy that you have been seeing turns out to be a bit of a douchebag, you learn and move on. As Grandma would say plenty more fish in the sea!

A paper you have slaved over for weeks sometimes you pass and sometimes you have read the brief completely wrong and your lecturer wants you to re-write. Sitting your driving test and speeding and you get back to the depot only to be told “I am sorry I cannot pass you”. Life it FULL of ups and downs.

Why am I writing this?

Tonight I saw Maria from Happy Mum Happy Child shared a moment from her life on Facebook and it got me thinking …. We as parents try not to let our children fail or be disappointed but are we doing them a disservice in doing so?

Our choices and actions teach us boundaries. Even when they are small, children push those boundaries to learn how far they can go. It’s nature. Failure and disappointment is a natural part of life and in allowing our children not to experience this natural yet shitty part of life are we not teaching them a valuable life lesson.

Imagine getting to 18 and never experiencing disappointment or failure? You would not have the coping mechanisms and strategies on board to realise THIS IS NORMAL. You would not know what was happening and you would feel like your world was ending.

Now I am no expert but looking from the outside in I am seeing a generation of kids who have never experienced disappointment or failure. Never lost a game, race or been told no. There are always “winners” and “losers” in this world. Maybe the words are not the nicest but they are reality.

Are we setting our kids up to “fail” by not teaching them the crucial life lesson?

It saddens me when I hear of schools not allowing “winners” in a race, because the other children will feel disappointment. Does this also not allow the winning child to feel a sense of pride and achievement? It also allows us to be apart of society that cuts achievers down with extreme hatred ….. Tall Poppy Syndrome anyone?

Here in NZ our teen suicide rate is high, too high.

As a mother with a child heading into this turbulent time I hope that I have given him the foundations of life lessons to get him through. I hope I have instilled in him that there is more to life than what can seem like the end of the world.

I would love to hear others thoughts.

Like I said this is only my opinion. I am not a parenting expert or child psychologist. Just a mum speaking as I find.

Cookbook Classic – HOME by Unna Burch 

I have a confession to make.

I have a secret.

Well to be honest it’s not so secret!

I am a cookbook hoarder. If you have every watched Nigella Lawson you would have seen her cookbook library. It is probably the most epic thing I have ever seen in my life. A whole room dedicated to her love of cookbooks.

In all honesty I just love all books but cookbooks are for me next level. Flicking through the pages of a cookbook take you on a journey. Regardless if you ever actually cook from it.

The very talented Unna Burch from The Forest Cantina has recently self published her 2nd cookbook called Home and it really is like visiting her home.

Unna self published via Kickstarter. As a backer I was lucky enough to be part of her Auckland styling/photography workshop she did last year. Unna has an amazing presence about her. It’s really hard to describe how rad she is. But she is pretty dang amazing.  She take simple styling to the next level and watching her work was mindblowing. From the placement of a leaf or seed to added props and textures it really was like watching a master at work.

Bonnie Beattie art director and lifestyle photography for Home visually told the story an a way that captured a moment in time.

Home is a collection of recipes which Unna says is her home cooking. Not only is Home a cookbook it looks at lifestyle. From good food to growing your own produce, to raising chickens for the perfect coloured egg (check out The Forest Cantina on Instagram to see what I mean) and giving you an insight into urban bee-keeping. After reading it I was ready to buy hives, rent an allotment and buy some chooks. Then I realised I would be really shit at all of those things so i’ll just stick to the cooking!!

Stand out recipes from the book for us have been the Diner Style Pancakes – easy to make (as I could NEVER make the Edmonds cookbook ones).  Once you try these you will never lower yourself to buy those shaker pancakes again.

Meatloaf with a BBQ glaze is now a firm fixture on our dinner menu.  What I love most is the fact not only is it freaking delicious, it does us two dinners so it saves me time!! We have it with spuds and veggies on night one and the leftovers we have meatloaf burgers with wedges. It’s even good cold and Unna gives a great recipe for Meatloaf sammies.

We have also tried the super fast egg foo young. This is genius and perfect when you have those moments of “I can’t be bothered cooking” and it actually tastes better than takeaways!

I am slowly working my way through the book and I can’t wait to spend a weekend in the kitchen making Nana Kui’s beetroot chutney, jalapeno – cranberry jelly and giving Unna’s ramen bone broth a crack.

Home is definitely a book you will cook from as well as escape in the beautiful images that Unna and Bonnie have captured. If you want to be inspired to cook I say go with Home.

DOT DASH + SABEN GIVEAWAY

I love Saben.

Silly as it may sound my Tilly has changed my life.

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Saben Tilly in Ink

What is even funnier, is that when I have been prattling on about how much I love her people have got one and found the same sort of life changing love.

My love grew when Camden came into my life.

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Now Tilly gets to rides shotgun in Camden for the big jobs like our latest trip to Melbourne.

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It is a win win situation.

Talking of winning ………

Saben have VERY kindly given me a Camden to giveaway to one lucky Dot Dash follower.

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All you need to do is click the link below and your in to WIN!

http://dgo.nz/bzZjsLuG4422

Don’t forget to tag your friends on our Facebook page so you can share the love!!

BIG, HUGE and McMASSIVE thank you to the Saben team for making this possible.

A pain in the GINA

Now we are going to get into the nitty gritty.

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If you don’t want to hear a woman talk about periods keep on scrolling.

As women we know what happens once a month.  When you are younger you want your little friend to visit you that 1st time because you want to feel grown up. It is a novelty. Your transition into womanhood.  Then reality hits and you realise that it doesn’t make you feel grown up, it feels like your vagine is going to fall out and someone is scraping your insides out with a blunt spoon. Well that is how I felt.

For 15-16 years I have dreaded each month. Those days where I want to crawl back to bed because I feel so awful.  The days where I debated shoving a nappy between my legs to stem the flow.  The days where I have debated inventing a vagina shelf that holds it up in a sling . The days where I’d be pain killered up to the eyeballs and still crying because it hurt so much. The months where I would go through a box of supers in a day.  The mornings I would ROLL out of bed with a towel between my legs and my husband yelling in the background “it’s OK, I will change the sheets”.

I think my lowest point was standing in a room FULL of men at work with it gushing down my legs and I didn’t know what to do but thank the baby Jesus for my work friend who rescued me and saved me from a VERY awkward situation/conversation.

I accepted this as “normal”. I was just unlucky.

I was the unfortunate one who just had terrible periods and I looked at those bitches using slim minis, who would say “oh I barely even realise I have it” with pure jealousy.

Heading into my 31st year, I had a life changing epiphany. Now in all honesty I wouldn’t have gone and bought organic tampons. So when BON sent me some to try I really didn’t have any expectations because a tampon, is a tampon right?

WRONG!

Oh my god how I was so wrong.

For the 1st time in 15 years I had a painfree period.

Coincidence says I, because how can a tampon make a difference?

Because it bloody does!!

4 months on I’m still pain free and it’s gone from the texas chainsaw massacre to really a period that really doesn’t affect my day to day life AND I used a mini ……… without having to run to the ladies 5 mins later!!

So I guess why I am oversharing is the fact that what I experienced for 15 years wasn’t normal. I mean yes this could be all coincidental and it might not even be related to the change in tammys BUT it’s the only thing I have changed and the impact on my life has been so drastic.  So life changing that I wanted to share my story and if I can help one person to have a pain free, non monthly gush fest I will.

So what’s my theory on this whole organic tampon shenanigians?

It could be the fact that the bleaches, dyes and chemicals used in regular tampons could trigger an immune/pain response and that is what I was experiencing.


Who knows, I am in no way a tampon/body/period expert!!

Something as simple as switching up your regular tampons to organic can possibly make a difference. It did for me.

If it makes a difference then why the hell not!

P.S – this is not a sponsored post. It’s just me talking about something that has actually changed my life.

SUMMER IS IN THE AIR

GUESS WHAT ?!?

Today is the first day of spring, which means summer is not that far away.

Here are a few of my favourite summer essentials.

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HATS:

Hats are my thing. There are two kinds of people in the world. People who can wear hats and people who can’t. Take my Grandfather for example, he was one of those individuals who could NOT wear a hat. Be it fedora, baker boy or cap it was just a big fat NO! Luckily I didn’t inherit that gene. Hat’s  for me add a little “something something” to an outfit and summer is the best time to play around with all manner of head wear (without fear of it blowing off).  Let’s also remember a good hat protects out faces from the old UV rays that can crisp up our skin. So hats are practical and stylish. It’s a win win.


BAGS:

If you have been following me on Instagram or Facebook you would have seen my Tilly from Saben EVERYWHERE! I love her. I eyed her up in-store and wanted to give her a home. She finally became part of our family on my birthday (thank you husband, all those hints worked!). Tilly will change your life. I actually mean it. As Shakespeare said “she may be little but she is fierce” Tilly is this. Little but will fit your WHOLE life in her pockets. As a mum of two little ones we still have to take our “baby bag” with us and to be honest I ain’t got time for a baby bag, big ass hand bag and the kitchen sink. Tilly fits inside our baby bag or whatever we have with us. Yes Tilly is an investment but it’s one I would make again as I think Tilly is getting lonely and needs a new friend.

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Saben Tilly in Ink

SHOES:

I don’t know about you but in summer I tend to always live in my black haviana jandels. Comfortable but a little bit boring. Last year I found Lulu Avarcas on Instagram and instantly wanted them. Beautiful handcrafted leather sandals which are so bloody comfy you won’t want to take them off. The only problem I have with them is that there are so many colours to choose from and I want one in every colour! Even better they have just released a kids range. Matchy Matchy!

Lulu Avarcas in Gold
Lulu Avarcas in Gold

CLOTHES:

I am a comfort kinda gal. I love a good pair of denim shorts and a tee. Last year I lived in my Factorie rolled cuffed denim shorts – To be honest I am probably a bit old for this shop BUT I went for a bigger size so they were a bit longer so my kooch wasn’t hanging out!! My go to tees are a basic tee from Glassons or Gypsy Pirate who always do a great range of tees and singlets for summer.


SUN PROTECTION:

Living in New Zealand regardless of skin tone we MUST look after it in the summer months. I’m a burner, like crispy bacon burnt if I don’t wear sunscreen. Frankie Apothecary does an amazing all natural sunscreen and bug repellent. Great for me, great for the kids and I love the fact it doesn’t leave that horrid greasy feeling on your skin and it moisturises  it too. One less thing for me to do over summer!

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TANNING:

I am potentially the palest person you will ever meet. I don’t go brown, I don’t tan, I just go red, then white again. If I could change one thing about myself it wouldn’t be my boobs or my jiggly mummy tummy, it would be my ability to tan. I know this probably sounds bloody ridiculous but them pale person problems! I love a tan that is instant, I don’t have the time to wait around for a tan to develop because 90% of the time I choose an outfit then think “F**K! I need to tan my legs!” Eco Tan have just launched their new Cacao Firming Mousse, this bad boy takes an hour to develop a beautiful caramel colour and if your like me I leave it on overnight without washing it of you will be one bronzed babe.  In the next week or so I will post some before and after shots so you can see the results. Eco Tan is nasty stuff free, vegan friendly and cruelty free.

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These are my summer essentials. All I need to do now is work on my bikini body …..

yeah right !?!

Jess x